Don't you hate it when "life be lifing"? We've all heard that saying before. It's moments where it feels that there's so many things to handle that it can be bit too much to process. From managing your own emotions to handling the peer pressure to be anything but yourself, life is full of decisions that most of the time, we don't want to make. One decision we should strive to make everyday is letting go of the pressure to be perfect. When you let go of what people think you should be, you learn to accept what you are, imperfections and all. Embracing imperfection can be a scary yet huge act of self-love and empowerment in a world that often expects perfection.
Expecting all of yourself as a black woman deals with another layer of issues. Because of systemic oppression, societal standards of beauty, success, and behavior finds us lost in the shuffle of life. As a black woman, I feel this weight of carrying cultural and societal expectations everyday. That's why in this blog post, I want to offer all my sistas out there 5 tools you can use to ensure that "life is lifing" on our terms.
1. Seek Therapy
As a therapist who focuses on the mental wellness of women of color, I strongly believe in the power of therapy as a tool for self-acceptance. Through therapy, we can learn useful methods to embrace our imperfections and discover more about ourselves. By acknowledging and accepting the various aspects of our personality, developing self-compassion, and exploring empowering stories about ourselves, we can understand who we are and appreciate the beauty of our imperfect yet perfect selves. By exploring and accepting the unique parts of ourselves, we can achieve a better understanding of our inner world. Embracing imperfection means accepting all parts of ourselves, even those we may view as flawed (not the best parts of ourselves).
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2. Self-Discovery and Reflection Journaling
I have learned that everyone will not see and understand me, but journaling has been instrumental in me seeing and understanding myself. Taking time to reflect on strengths, areas of growth, and values through journaling, meditation, or guided self-reflection exercises can help deepen your understanding of yourself and foster self-compassion. Journals are sold everywhere and can cost very little depending on what you're looking for. Get a journal that fits your personality so that you are more likely to write in it.
3. Self-Compassion Strategies
Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, especially when faced with setbacks or challenges. Practicing self-care rituals such as setting intentions for your day, practicing positive affirmations, and self-soothing techniques such as guided breathing and visualization practices can assist in cultivating a nurturing relationship with yourself. Taking a long and relaxing bath can even soothe those stubborn worries.
4. Building Supportive Communities
I have a circle of amazing women who keep me grounded even before I know I need it. Surround yourself with people who uplift and celebrate you. Find spaces where you feel seen, heard, and valued for who you are, free from judgment or comparison.
5. Embracing Vulnerability
Many people view vulnerability as a weakness and tend to keep it hidden in the shadows, fearing that someone might misuse or abuse it. Through growth and healing, I have learned to embrace vulnerability as a strength. It is important to note that it can take time to heal parts of us and embrace vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness. When we embrace vulnerability, we create space for meaningful relationships and personal growth. Open yourself up for all the positive things life has to offer.
⭐Pro-Tip: Resource Recommendations⭐
In addition to exploring this blog, check out these insightful resources to further support and inspire your journey toward self-acceptance. These resources offer diverse perspectives and wisdom to help you embrace imperfections and cultivate self-acceptance.
Book: "The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are" by Brené Brown - Books are amazing way to learn more in-depth about your self-care journey. This book explores the power of embracing imperfection and vulnerability as pathways to wholehearted living. The Gifts of Imperfection offers valuable insights and tools for anyone seeking to let go of perfectionism and cultivate a more fulfilling life.
Podcast Episode: "How Embracing Fear & Failure Can Lead to Successful Outcomes" from Transcending Identity with Nicole Lee, featuring Mary Bell. I love listening to podcasts! In this insightful episode, Nicole Lee and guest Mary Bell discuss how embracing fear and aligning with your truth to make bold and daring decisions can lead to successful outcomes.
Now It's Time to Do the Work!
Embracing our perfect imperfections allows us to see our value as amazing and beautiful women. This empowers us to write our own story and redefine success on our terms. By being kind to ourselves, we pave the way for a more genuine and authentic world. As women of color, we have the power to redefine perfection on our terms. It is about embracing our culture, celebrating our achievements, and embracing the beauty of our imperfections. You are enough black woman❤️ Always remember that.
*I am not affiliated with any of the resources provided in this blog post. These recommendations are based solely on my experience and research, and I do not receive any compensation or benefits from promoting these resources. I want to share valuable resources that may support your journey. I encourage you to research what aligns with your needs and preferences.